Happy Holidays from Polished Peyton
Holiday etiquette centers around one word: TIME. It’s important to arrive on time if you are a guest. To respect other people’s time if you are hosting. To prioritize your time with family and friends. Here are some guidelines for being a gracious host and the perfect party guest.
Tips for the Host
Party Planning 101
When hosting a dinner or cocktails the most important thing to remember is YOU. Yes, YOU! If you are relaxed, others will be.
Send Timely Invitations
Text, Evite, or engraved invitation? Each of these have a place in today’s party scene. Follow the following timelines when considering how and when to send your invitations. Formal dinner: 4-6 weeks in advance; Informal dinner: 3 days-3weeks; Luncheon: 3 days to 3 weeks.
Greet Every Guest
You or another representative of the family need to be near the front door to greet everyone arriving. As the host, do not engage in deep conversation.
Phone a Friend
Before your event, phone a few friends. Make sure your good friends know about the new neighbors coming and about your Aunt Betsy who only likes to sit in a certain chair. Ask a friend to help with seeing that the new neighbors meet others. Have someone keep an eye on Aunt Betsy.
Tips for the Guest
Respond and Arrive on Time
RSVP if requested to do so. Arrive on time. If you are going to arrive more than fifteen minutes late, please let your host know.
Keep Moving
Greet your host once you walk in but, keep moving. Your host is busy. Do not monopolize their time.
Talk with Everyone
When someone plans a party, they invite you for a reason. The reason is not that they thought you might be thirsty. You are invited because you have something to contribute. Maybe you are a good connector in conversation, you make others feel welcome, your children are friends with their children. The point is, circulate.
Reminders for Children
Talk with your children (young and old) about your expectations of them at the party. Using an inside voice, not eating until it’s time, thanking the host, knowing basic table manners, and excusing themselves appropriately are good things to review.
**Special offer for EIL readers in December 2021: To receive a place setting printout, email me at Jennifer@polishedpeyton.com. It’s great for all ages and a good reminder of the table setting!
Jennifer Daniel is a graduate of The Protocol School of Washington and she may be reached at Jennifer@polishedpeyton.com or visit her website at polishedpeyton.com.
